身份过度卷入

在讨好型人格中，这种卷入使得人沦为情绪打工仔。他们认为如果自己拒绝了别人，就不再是一个“好人”，从而产生深深的道德焦虑与内耗。

In the architecture of the people-pleaser, this entanglement reduces the individual to a mere wage-slave of emotion. They harbor the conviction that to refuse another is to forfeit their status as a “good person,” thereby triggering profound moral anxiety and a relentless internal attrition.